You may feel weak, but you're actually strong

Every morning while driving to work, I usually listen to a particular San Diego radio station that has daily positive/motivational segments to get my day started. Here's one of the powerful ones:

Ok so over the weekend I met this woman. She was a 45 year old single mother of two who's had her fair share of ups and downs in life. Her mother passed away recently leaving her to care for her father. She has lupus and suffered a stroke which put her in the hospital and out of work for a good while. She's been used and abused by some horrible men. And she's just kind of given up on the idea of ever being happy again. As she was telling me her story she seemed a little weathered, definitely over worked and worn out, but had the wisdom of someone that's lived way beyond the 45 years she shows on her birth certificate. With a tear in her eye she asked me, "Geena, what do I do? What is the purpose of life? And why do all these bad things keep happening to me? Does it ever stop? I feel worthless" As I looked at her, I could see the pain in her eyes. I could see all the hurt she's been through and I could see the anguish that has lived inside her for years. But beyond all that, if one were to look deeper they would see what I saw; a beautiful woman. A youthful woman with a heart of gold. I told her, "I know you've had a tough life. And I can tell you feel worn out and stressed. And I know when you look in the mirror you may think you see a worthless woman. But you know what I see. I see a strong woman. I see a woman who's been able to fight all these battles and is still here alive and fighting. I see a woman whose tiredness on her face just shows me how hard she's worked to raise two beautiful kids and how hard she's still working to put food on the table for her family. I see a woman, who has overcome many struggles, and who is still overcoming struggles but those are the struggles that have made her who she is today. A strong woman, a hard working woman, a woman with perseverance, a woman who could've gave up a long time ago, but has chosen not to. What I see standing in front of me right now, is one of the strongest women I've ever met and a woman I can only hope to aspire to be like one day. Quote of the day comes from William Durant: He once said, "Forget past mistakes. Forget failures. Forget about everything except what you're going to do now - and do it."

Personality is forever. Be honest with yourself. *****

The following blog has a bit of a different theme; it's about an insight of mine about marriages/relationships:

I met a man who was having marital problems. We were in a business-setting; I stepped into his office and noticed that he was troubled and so I said “I’ll come back.” He said “You know what, let’s go grab some lunch.” Over lunch he had told me that he married in his early 20’s, now he’s in his late 30’s and he has two boys. He said that he realized after he got married and had known for a long time now that he and his wife are not compatible and that he's having a real hard time staying married to her. He said that he stays for his sons. He said that the things that are not working in their marriage were present before the marriage, but it didn't occur to him that they would be the things that would break him. He then told me as a piece of advice "Before you get into marriage, think about your future spouse's flaws, be truthful with yourself and ask 'Can I?' You are the only one that can answer that so just be honest with yourself."

You marry or stay in a relationship for the right reasons - not because it's time because of your age - this will not withstand a lifetime of tests during a marriage - not for money, physical attractiveness, fame, status, etc - these are all conditional things about a person; at any given point, it could be taken away. At times people underestimate the importance of personality because to me, personality is forever.

Even if you made a mistake, you have a chance

Although no one can go back & make a brand new beginning, anyone can start now & make a brand new ending.

The only time you run out of chances is when you stop trying.

Habang nahinga, may pagasa.
All you really need is air in your lungs and your chance starts there.

If you're having a hard life...

...you really should get up the courage to talk/vent to someone - anyone - someone you're close to or if you'd prefer, someone impartial. You will find that life's hardships are within everyone and you are not alone. Other people's hardships might not be in the same form as yours, but there is someone in the world that is suffering from the same magnitude or if not, maybe more. And you will find that although life is not fair sometimes, perhaps the fact that the unfairness is more common than previously thought and that you are not alone will make living through the hardship a bit more comforting. The key is to simply LIVE THROUGH IT. Although it might seem forever now, it will pass. You will look back someday and say "Wow. I got through all of that."

Trust me; I've been there and done that. For 3 years, I've had consecutive unfavorable life events and I've kept it to myself and finally, I opened up to my family & friends and because I've opened up, they opened up too - I found out that although a young lady had graduated from college and is about to start her career, before all of this, a while back, she and her family got into a car accident - and imagine, waking up from a coma 2 months later only to find out that your legs are paralyzed for life and that your father is gone. Reminder that there are billions of people in the world. Everyone has something - they are in different shapes, degrees, forms - but the one thing they hold in common is that it is not always the person's fault and that these bad things happen to good people who don't deserve it. It happens and it's not fair, but people live through them everyday. And those who choose to live through it end up doing much more with their lives. =)

To positive thinking!

I dedicate my blogs to positive thoughts/thinking. Here goes!