Some bad things aren't 100% bad

I know a girl who was in long & stable relationship. They loved each other & laughed together - it was a good relationship. While they were still in their 20's, they were still in the phase of building a life for themselves and so he had to do what he had to do on one side of the globe and so did she on the other side of globe. Although long-distance relationships are extremely difficult, they figured that all the sacrifices are definitely worth it for each other - as long as they ultimately end up together with good standing lives, that's all that mattered to them. However, during the months they were apart, the guy ended up cheating on her. She was devastated...so devastated that she lost 20 pounds in a month! She said that what troubled her was: She was willing to bet her life that he was a good guy who unconditionally loved her and that he was the one. Her faith and her trust in her perception of how good people are were shaken. She thought if a good relationship couldn't work, then nothing will work. She continued this way for about a year.

She tried dating and as much as she dated good guys - guys that had their lives together, long-term relationship guys, good careers, good character, she still felt the same - very little faith in relationships and very little trust in herself that she can make it work.

And just when she was about to give up...just when she was about to toss her last ounce of faith in relationships, she met a new guy that she had no intention of dating...little by little she began to see that he wasn't a good guy - he was great guy! She said that there was something about him that makes him great! She said there were many great things she was unaware about that her previous relationship lacked that she wouldn't have ever known. They eventually got together and have been together for a few years now and are going strong.

Imagine, if the first guy never cheated on her, she wouldn't have ever gotten out of that one and would have settled for good and would have never experienced great. Sometimes bad things happen for a reason; sometimes bad things aren't 100% bad as her bad thing led to something GREAT.
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Happy 4th of July everyone!