Personality is forever. Be honest with yourself. *****

The following blog has a bit of a different theme; it's about an insight of mine about marriages/relationships:

I met a man who was having marital problems. We were in a business-setting; I stepped into his office and noticed that he was troubled and so I said “I’ll come back.” He said “You know what, let’s go grab some lunch.” Over lunch he had told me that he married in his early 20’s, now he’s in his late 30’s and he has two boys. He said that he realized after he got married and had known for a long time now that he and his wife are not compatible and that he's having a real hard time staying married to her. He said that he stays for his sons. He said that the things that are not working in their marriage were present before the marriage, but it didn't occur to him that they would be the things that would break him. He then told me as a piece of advice "Before you get into marriage, think about your future spouse's flaws, be truthful with yourself and ask 'Can I?' You are the only one that can answer that so just be honest with yourself."

You marry or stay in a relationship for the right reasons - not because it's time because of your age - this will not withstand a lifetime of tests during a marriage - not for money, physical attractiveness, fame, status, etc - these are all conditional things about a person; at any given point, it could be taken away. At times people underestimate the importance of personality because to me, personality is forever.

Even if you made a mistake, you have a chance

Although no one can go back & make a brand new beginning, anyone can start now & make a brand new ending.

The only time you run out of chances is when you stop trying.

Habang nahinga, may pagasa.
All you really need is air in your lungs and your chance starts there.

If you're having a hard life...

...you really should get up the courage to talk/vent to someone - anyone - someone you're close to or if you'd prefer, someone impartial. You will find that life's hardships are within everyone and you are not alone. Other people's hardships might not be in the same form as yours, but there is someone in the world that is suffering from the same magnitude or if not, maybe more. And you will find that although life is not fair sometimes, perhaps the fact that the unfairness is more common than previously thought and that you are not alone will make living through the hardship a bit more comforting. The key is to simply LIVE THROUGH IT. Although it might seem forever now, it will pass. You will look back someday and say "Wow. I got through all of that."

Trust me; I've been there and done that. For 3 years, I've had consecutive unfavorable life events and I've kept it to myself and finally, I opened up to my family & friends and because I've opened up, they opened up too - I found out that although a young lady had graduated from college and is about to start her career, before all of this, a while back, she and her family got into a car accident - and imagine, waking up from a coma 2 months later only to find out that your legs are paralyzed for life and that your father is gone. Reminder that there are billions of people in the world. Everyone has something - they are in different shapes, degrees, forms - but the one thing they hold in common is that it is not always the person's fault and that these bad things happen to good people who don't deserve it. It happens and it's not fair, but people live through them everyday. And those who choose to live through it end up doing much more with their lives. =)

To positive thinking!

I dedicate my blogs to positive thoughts/thinking. Here goes!