Never an easy way out, but definitely a way out

I know this great couple - I say they're great because they are honest hard-working people and provide one of the most pleasant companies. They are lucky enough to have found each other and after 10 years (yes 10 years!) of being together, they decided to tie the knot!

On their way to their honeymoon, driving to Las Vegas, to avoid a car accident since a car had cut them off, their car swerved and still led to a car accident. This car accident was no minor one - it led to several life challenges especially physical challenges.

I ponder: how you're a good & honest person right in the middle of a happy time in your life - on your way to your honeymoon to celebrate solidifying 10 years of togetherness - but yet life still has a challenge for you.

And now although the chances of a 100% recovery were slimmer than the contrary, the bride has taken off her back brace!

Bad things happen to good people and there is never an easy way out, but there is definitely a way out. It's possible! This couple is my inspiration to getting through tough times.

Today is their one year wedding anniversary! Getting through tough times together is what successful marriages are all about! Happy one year!

Atypical marriage

When I witnessed this particular couple getting married, I thought: It's very rare that two people are getting married while the two people are BOTH marrying up. I wasn't wrong:

Husband misplaces his wedding ring. Wife says, "That's okay. We'll just get you a new one." Husband says, "But I want to be a husband who doesn't lose his wedding ring."

How about that? A wife that is cool/understanding about her husband misplacing his wedding ring and a husband that is hard on himself for misplacing it. True story. I wish most marriages were like this.

Congratulations to you both; you know who you are.

Some bad things aren't 100% bad

I know a girl who was in long & stable relationship. They loved each other & laughed together - it was a good relationship. While they were still in their 20's, they were still in the phase of building a life for themselves and so he had to do what he had to do on one side of the globe and so did she on the other side of globe. Although long-distance relationships are extremely difficult, they figured that all the sacrifices are definitely worth it for each other - as long as they ultimately end up together with good standing lives, that's all that mattered to them. However, during the months they were apart, the guy ended up cheating on her. She was devastated...so devastated that she lost 20 pounds in a month! She said that what troubled her was: She was willing to bet her life that he was a good guy who unconditionally loved her and that he was the one. Her faith and her trust in her perception of how good people are were shaken. She thought if a good relationship couldn't work, then nothing will work. She continued this way for about a year.

She tried dating and as much as she dated good guys - guys that had their lives together, long-term relationship guys, good careers, good character, she still felt the same - very little faith in relationships and very little trust in herself that she can make it work.

And just when she was about to give up...just when she was about to toss her last ounce of faith in relationships, she met a new guy that she had no intention of dating...little by little she began to see that he wasn't a good guy - he was great guy! She said that there was something about him that makes him great! She said there were many great things she was unaware about that her previous relationship lacked that she wouldn't have ever known. They eventually got together and have been together for a few years now and are going strong.

Imagine, if the first guy never cheated on her, she wouldn't have ever gotten out of that one and would have settled for good and would have never experienced great. Sometimes bad things happen for a reason; sometimes bad things aren't 100% bad as her bad thing led to something GREAT.
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Happy 4th of July everyone!