There are many things in the world that will make a person happy and thankful. Happy Thanksgiving!
Thursday, November 25, 2010
What floats your boat?
Every person is different. Every person will have different priorities. What's important to me may not be important to you. I know some people who work 90 hours a week. I know some folks who work on holidays. They are always on the go and always have money in the bank, feel secure, and to them, that floats their boat. I know some people who are simple, have a roof over their head, 3 square meals a day & have abundant family time and they're happy - to them, that's what floats their boat. The world is just filled with many many things in different forms that can make us happy. Take your pick! Take advantage! What floats your boat?!
There are many things in the world that will make a person happy and thankful. Happy Thanksgiving!
There are many things in the world that will make a person happy and thankful. Happy Thanksgiving!
Saturday, November 6, 2010
Letting go is not a one-time thing
This week I found out the following:
Letting go is not a one time thing. It is something you have to do over and over again, everyday.
I came across a woman who got divorced and re-married. She divorced her ex-husband because he had other women. She was routinely miserable.
A couple of years later, she found someone - someone she was very compatible with. She is happier than ever (:
Six years after her divorce, she ran into her ex-husband.
Although ultimately she knows she's in a much better place 10 times over and her first marriage is in fact non-existent, her natural first reaction is to feel pain.
And although in the last 4 years, she has been blissfully happy in her current marriage, she had to take a deep breath and let go (again).
Time does not heal all wounds. With time, your pain can be reduced and you're able to move forward with your life, but there can be a scar left behind. Healing and letting go is an on-going process. Letting go is definitely not a one time deal.
You must consciously remind yourself to let go and move forward.
Letting go is not a one time thing. It is something you have to do over and over again, everyday.
I came across a woman who got divorced and re-married. She divorced her ex-husband because he had other women. She was routinely miserable.
A couple of years later, she found someone - someone she was very compatible with. She is happier than ever (:
Six years after her divorce, she ran into her ex-husband.
Although ultimately she knows she's in a much better place 10 times over and her first marriage is in fact non-existent, her natural first reaction is to feel pain.
And although in the last 4 years, she has been blissfully happy in her current marriage, she had to take a deep breath and let go (again).
Time does not heal all wounds. With time, your pain can be reduced and you're able to move forward with your life, but there can be a scar left behind. Healing and letting go is an on-going process. Letting go is definitely not a one time deal.
You must consciously remind yourself to let go and move forward.
Letting go is not a one time thing. It is something you have to do over and over again, everyday.
Sunday, October 3, 2010
An example of not appreciating what you have
I know a girl. We are not too close, but I have recently spoken to her. She has a troubled relationship with her father; they just can't seem to get along due to their personality differences. She is so angry with her father...so angry that sometimes she thinks she is better off never knowing him.
She has recently attended 2 weddings.
The first wedding was her guy friend's wedding and while the bride marched down the aisle, she was given away by her uncle since both of her parents were killed in a car crash when she was a child.
The second wedding was her girlfriend's wedding and while her girlfriend walked down the aisle, she was given away by only her mother because when the bride was a teenager, her father had taken his own life away.
She then realized that the one day she plans on walking down the aisle, she would like to picture having her father be the one to walk her down and give her away...
She has recently attended 2 weddings.
The first wedding was her guy friend's wedding and while the bride marched down the aisle, she was given away by her uncle since both of her parents were killed in a car crash when she was a child.
The second wedding was her girlfriend's wedding and while her girlfriend walked down the aisle, she was given away by only her mother because when the bride was a teenager, her father had taken his own life away.
She then realized that the one day she plans on walking down the aisle, she would like to picture having her father be the one to walk her down and give her away...
Saturday, September 4, 2010
Goods things happen to good people
After 13 years of togetherness, 2 good people are going to tie the knot today!! Good things DO happen to good people (:
Sunday, August 8, 2010
Sunday, July 4, 2010
TR quote
I am feeling United States-y today...
"Do what you can, with what you have, where you are." - Theodore Roosevelt
Happy 4th of July everyone!
Saturday, June 12, 2010
Dreams => Reality
Tomorrow my boyfriend is graduating and obtaining his MBA from a ranked program. I still remember when it was just dream, just a general goal to obtain a higher education and fantasy to work for a big company. Because of his daily steps toward his goal, it's simply not a dream anymore - he is living his dream. No wishing; just do. A prime example of making dreams a reality :)
Monday, May 17, 2010
A time when the hard times were worth it*****
My friend of 10+ years was raised by a single-mom. Since we were young girls, my friend has always talked about how her mom was STRONG.
Two years ago on my friend's wedding day, her maid of honor was her sister and I remember I cried my eyes out during the maid of honor speech because both the bride and the maid of honor were so THANKFUL for their mother. It was simply portrayed that they felt they had complete lives and that their mom did a incredible job because now, you'll see 2 daughters with good lives - both daughters earned their bachelor's degree in respectable areas of study, both are married and like their mother, both are strong women...
It's moments like these that make single parenthood or any other hard time in life worth it.
Tuesday, April 20, 2010
Make life count!
"And in the end it's not the years in your life that count. It is the life in your years."~Abraham Lincoln
...coming from an obviously credible source that made his life count - until now his life counts for a lot!
Make life count!
Sunday, March 21, 2010
The ball is in your court more often than you think
Sunday, February 14, 2010
A relationship insight
Sometimes it's not the person you're with; sometimes it's who YOU tend to be as a result of that person's company.
Example:
I know a guy who was with a girl who gave him pretty much everything he wanted. Although a relationship is a two-way street, in this relationship, she was the only one who was driving and working on it while he sat back, was a back-seat driver and made all the demands. The girl is a nice generous person who loved her boyfriend and to her that was enough. Although the boy is also a nice person, because of the nature of their relationship (she was the giver and he was the taker), he tended to be a demanding spoiled brat of a boyfriend - he did not do this intentionally or maliciously - he was simply unaware that he was this person. It was not until years later that he realized: He wasn't the person he wanted to be; in fact, he was even further away from the person he wanted to be...all a result of the nature of their relationship. His attitude, his career, etc were all slipping away - far from how he pictured them to be. Although his girlfriend was a generous and accepting person, he wasn't an inspired person and it was then that he realized that for both of their sakes, he couldn't continue this pattern...i.e. this relationship.
I spoke to him recently and it had been a little while before he found another girlfriend. He has been with his current girlfriend for 2 years now and he said that this girlfriend is the one =). In his current relationship, no one person is a taker; no one person is a giver - both of them give and take and he says that he is inspired everyday to be a kind person filled with motivation. It appears to me that he now has a balanced healthy relationship. Most importantly, he loves the person he had become the last couple of years.
It wasn't that his earlier girlfriend was a horrible person; he pointed out bluntly that she wasn't. There is just something about his latter relationship that inspires him to be a better person. Again, sometimes it's not the person you're with; sometimes it's who YOU tend to be as a result of that person's company.
Example:
I know a guy who was with a girl who gave him pretty much everything he wanted. Although a relationship is a two-way street, in this relationship, she was the only one who was driving and working on it while he sat back, was a back-seat driver and made all the demands. The girl is a nice generous person who loved her boyfriend and to her that was enough. Although the boy is also a nice person, because of the nature of their relationship (she was the giver and he was the taker), he tended to be a demanding spoiled brat of a boyfriend - he did not do this intentionally or maliciously - he was simply unaware that he was this person. It was not until years later that he realized: He wasn't the person he wanted to be; in fact, he was even further away from the person he wanted to be...all a result of the nature of their relationship. His attitude, his career, etc were all slipping away - far from how he pictured them to be. Although his girlfriend was a generous and accepting person, he wasn't an inspired person and it was then that he realized that for both of their sakes, he couldn't continue this pattern...i.e. this relationship.
I spoke to him recently and it had been a little while before he found another girlfriend. He has been with his current girlfriend for 2 years now and he said that this girlfriend is the one =). In his current relationship, no one person is a taker; no one person is a giver - both of them give and take and he says that he is inspired everyday to be a kind person filled with motivation. It appears to me that he now has a balanced healthy relationship. Most importantly, he loves the person he had become the last couple of years.
It wasn't that his earlier girlfriend was a horrible person; he pointed out bluntly that she wasn't. There is just something about his latter relationship that inspires him to be a better person. Again, sometimes it's not the person you're with; sometimes it's who YOU tend to be as a result of that person's company.
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