Still a persistent happy great guy

I knew someone during college who, despite life hardships, persistently worked for his bachelor's degree. He financially supported himself since a young adult, had younger siblings to take care of and had a disabled & blind mother in a wheelchair to care for. I am amazed at this person's perseverance; he never gave up on achieving his professional dream, but I think what amazed me more about this person is that he lived life as if he was problem-free - HE WAS SUCH A HAPPY GREAT GUY!

Happy Holidays to all!

She never got what she wanted

An unlucky story:

She has had 2 failed engagements. And finally on her third engagement, in the summer of 2007, she tied the knot at the age of 41. However, she became a widow the following winter due to a car accident.

I know bad things happen; I know we don't always get what we want, but I think this is another level! That's REALLY unfair and the word really can't seem to describe the magnitude of unfairness here. I had my share of experiencing unfairness in life. There is no easy way for these types of things, but I do know of A way: You hold on tight and you hold on strong.

Being single is not the worse thing

I'm not an expert on relationships, but I do have an insight about them here and there:

Since I cancelled my gym membership in SoCal, it was time to set one up in NorCal and so I went a couple of months ago. The girl who helped me appeared to be in her late 20's. She was very open & comfortable with me (since we're around the same age and all) and asked me if I had a boyfriend. I nodded and she said "Lucky! I've been single for like a year! I really wish I had a boyfriend!" I noticed the look on her face - a full face of discontentment. I could see where she's coming from, but I could also see where she is headed and so I said something like "It's better to be single than rush into a relationship and just end up broken. So really, it's much better to take your time in choosing the RIGHT one. There are much worse things than being single."

Perhaps I shouldn't broadcast this over the world wide web, but I must in attempt to help others. I have someone in my life who is somewhat of a mother figure and when she was much much younger - when she was still a young single girl, she said that she had a specific goal of being married by the time she was 25. Thus, she married her boyfriend right around that time. Years down the road, her marriage was in shambles (not compatible, communication problems, etc) and ended in divorce before she reached the age of 40.

Being single is not the worse thing; there is something worse - you could be hurt. Besides, relationships are A LOT of work so do it with someone worthwhile. So take your time. There are many beautiful things in the world. Enjoy the day!